Woman Doesn't Help Friend Get Job At Her Company, Feels Bad, Consults Reddit

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mattstaff
Mar 28, 2021 5:00 PM EDT

Oh boy, what we have here is a brutal demonstration of blatant dishonesty. It seems like this woman's friend is waving all kinds of red flags, and wouldn't be the ideal person to end up working with. With that being said, she decided to consult the moral judges of Reddit's AITA community, and they seem to be in agreement that she ultimately made the right call. 

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    Font - AITA for not helping my "friend" getting a job at my company? It was one year ago that I (25f) got to know „Julia" (28f). We both were writing our master's thesis in the same department of our university and kept talking/writing to each other during that phase of our lives. During that time we also started applying for jobs. Of course it happened, that we both applied for the same positions as we were both interested in the same kind of jobs. A few weeks into applying I asked her about al
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    Font - I started to let her know less about my own applications. Mainly I would apply and if I had an interview that went well I would tell her about it. I still wanted to keep contact, because other than this I really liked her. And honestly I didn't even know if it really was as I imagined it. All could've been a coincidence as well. Later, I once told her about two offers I had and she told me to not take the job at company A, because she thought company A was sketchy. I decided to take compa
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    Font - I then decided to not engage in any further conversations with her, because I was really pissed. This was in June 2020. Two weeks ago she called me out of the blue, asking how I was doing. Because I didn't want to be an AH I also asked about her and she started crying on the phone. According to her her job was awful and she was already looking for something new. And that's there I came in: she saw that my company offered my old position (I internally switched to another position a few wee
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    Font - Yesterday my boss gave me his top 20 applications and wanted me to pick 10 for interviews. I looked through all of them and also stumbled across Julia's application. At first, I really wanted to put her on the interview stack. I thought if my boss already picked her out of 200 others she should have the chance to prove herself. But when I looked through her application I saw that she entirely copied my motivational letter. I was so mad at her (and me too, because I was so dumb to give her
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    Font - Edit3: l'm really sorry I haven't been able to respond to all the comments and questions I got. I just got home. So at the end of my meeting I told my boss there was something about the applications yesterday I wanted to talk about and told him how everything happened. That a) I know Julia and b) I gave her my motivational letter, so she had inspiration for her own and that in the end c) she copied my letter entirely, which led to d) me not choosing her for the interview round. To my reli
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    Organism - Azizass • 5h • Partassipant [1] NTA. What she did is PLAGIARISM and is a major red flag for the company. If instead of your letter was someone else's and you found out that she copied it, you would feel the same. Talk to your boss, say that you know her, but also said what she did. Let him make his own decision after. Reply 3.3k 3 ...
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    Organism - FlowersBooksHistory · 5h NTA "Julia's" application didn't get in to the top twenty, yours did. Your company was willing to consider her based off of your writing, not hers. I'm willing to bet her current job is so awful because she lied on that application too and isn't qualified to do the job. G Reply 1 1.3k ...
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    Font - Firesunwatermoon • 5h NTA Both applying for same jobs will happen if in same area and field. But going for the same ones you do, after your research. And blatantly coping your letter 1:1 is plagiarism, anyone would think to just read it as inspiration and then tweak it etc. Not to mention job A was accepted by her after she coached you to not take it. But I am always wary of listing a mate for a job referral. I've given amazing references for two of my friends before, they got the job wit
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    Mammal - AleshiniaLivesStill · 5h · Partassipant [4] NTA but I hope you learn to hold your cards closer to the vest in situations like this. Literally telling her as much as you did will never be a good idea, regardless. G Reply 4 46 ...
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    Smile - QueenMAb82 ·• 4h • Partassipant [1] NTA. She plagiarized your work. If she has made it through a graduate degree without understanding why that is not okay - even for a "little" thing like a letter - then she is a liability to the company, not an asset. G Reply 36 3 ...
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    Font - redditstrangernstuff · 2h Dude. You're being so stupid. Your friend is a grifter. She shows you over and over. Stop helping her. Print out a copy of your old application. Give it to your boss. Get her Knocked out of the pile. Feel free to call and let her know that's exactly what happened. If she's not able to put in the work for her application she's not right for the role. NTA. G Reply 18 •..
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    Handwriting - ChickenNApathy · 2h NTA, but damn girl, how many times does it take before you learn your lesson? You're 25, you should have better sense than this. Reply 4 16 + ...
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    Font - Comfortable_Stop_717 · 5h · Partassipant [1] nta because she copied your letter. I do want to say, though, that she probably took the job at company A because that was all she was offered. You admit that you chose Company B for other reasons and she said she was miserable after a few months. Not sure there was any manipulation going on for that score. G Reply 1 23 ...
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    Font - Neko_09 · 4h Quite clearly NTA. Her behaviour is not only sketchy but untrustworthy too. Who knows what you'd get yourself into if she worked at the same place.. Plus the entire copying issue is pretty pathetic! Stay as far away from that one as you can! G Reply 1 7 ...
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    Font - Mysterecks7812 · 5h NTA but l'm only saying that because Julia sounds like a greedy opportunistic person. mean she literally told you not to even apply at a certain company to more then likely improve her chances and you still tried to help her with sending her the letter. To be fair what you did with tossing the application was a little dickish but to me not as bad as what she did. G Reply 1 231 ...
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    Font - Smiley-Canadian • 2h NTA. You need to stop helping Julia and block her. It was a huge mistake giving her your letter with her track record. She will more than likely continue to use it and copy your CV. It's ok to set boundaries and not help everyone. Send an email to your boss about what happened. Your boss should address with her that they don't accept workers who plagiarize and cut corners. Your boss can easily point out he remembered your own exact same letter. G Reply +
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    Font - Silly_philosopher_ • 1h NTA Julia is an opportunistic back stabber. Keep your distance from now on. Reply 4 2 ...
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